Let's discuss last night's episode of Downton Abbey, shall we? Oh, you haven't watched it yet? Ok, well, get on that, it's a good one. And by good I mean heart wrenching. Ugh. So, we won't discuss the show, but there's one aspect, one small scene I want to discuss. I won't give away what happens in the show, but Lady Edith says to Lady Mary, basically, "Can we finally be friends?" And Lady Mary responds, "Oh, I doubt it." And that's when I realized that I am a Lady Edith. Probably not completely. I didn't get left at the altar. And she's certainly done some horrible things to Lady Mary. But I am definitely the type of person who wants to mend disagreements and try to be friends again. Sometimes long past the friendship expiration date. I can think of a couple of specific instances in college where I hung on to friendships long after the other party had moved on, and one job I should have left but stayed more because I mistakenly thought more of the friends I had there than the horrible working conditions I was under.
I think there's some value in being a Lady Edith. I value my friendships and work to maintain them. But I think there's some value in being a Lady Mary too. She lets things go when they need to, and is realistic about wether or not a friendship is going to work.
Now we could also say something about the fact that they are family, not just friends. I do think that family relationships deserve the work required. Lady Edith and Lady Mary should both put aside their differences and work on becoming friends as well as sisters, but I don't see that happening. And if they were nice to each other would that change the dynamic of Downton Abbey too much?
OK, so who are you? Are you a Lady Edith who hangs on to friendships too long or a Lady Mary who moves on too easily?